Conversations With My Wife Part II

The conversation led to this important question many of us ask, what is my next move? Well a very reasonable question given the state of affairs our World exists in. An economic decline makes the question even more relevant because such stress causes us to rethink our paradigm. The question itself brings great pain. The worrisome future that does not even exist in the reality becomes a source of fear. This fear leads to inner destruction. The very question distracts our awareness away from the present time and then traps the human consciousness in the two poles known as Dualism(http://plato.stanford.edu/entries/dualism/ ), forgetting the whole time you are in the middle, you are in balance. The words of RZA speak so much in his new written testament to the Wisdom, Knowledge, and Understanding of the Soul that is Oneness Manifest. RZA says, “the key is true consciousness, in the present, in the moment, right now, where you’re at, set yourself in Heaven at once (The Tao of Wu, p. 198).” The synchronistic nature of our experience produces moments in our reality and provides a framework for enlightenment. This quote comes right after the conversation, I am merely pointing out a synchronistic moment.

So as we talked I was able to see how an energetic tug of war may rage to force us to forget that Divine Nature and Creative Force within. When we have a goal, for example ‘to be happy,’ we tend to believe it’s in some distant future. Why is that? IN various philosophies talk about enlightenment as Oneness and Happiness, but I would really say Nowness. Even when you are peaceful and happy with things in your life we sometimes find a reason to produce fear? So much pressure is given to each of us to be ‘something’ in life or do ‘something’ with our life. Ironic that we live and believe in individualism and freedom of expression, but most of that which we deem as our Self really remains a dictation of forced beliefs passed on from generational conditioning typically through Culture. And that what emerged during the conversation, Culture so to speak, that she must do more than where she exists at, yet she claims to be happy and at peace. Then she said it, “my family….” The level of control your family can have can be damaging even if loving. I think we could offset that if we reset our intentions with our relationships with them.

So as my wife produced stress in front of my eyes, she began to rethink why she was asking the question. “What is my next move in life?” I asked simply, “are you happy?” Her response was quick and decisive, “Most definitely, I am so happy.” My next question was, why are you concerned with the future? And why are you so hard on your self to become more, yet you state you are totally happy right now? With that question the weight lifted on her. A successful relationship is what most of us strive for in life, to find that partner and become ONE. Its interesting how most Creation Myths (http://www.cs.williams.edu/~lindsey/myths/myths.html ) talk of that Original Oneness and the constant reference to some relationship built on another. This is a current theme in society, but what does society say about relationship? My wife is learning about the most important relationship, the One she has with herself. It seems we think always to the past or the future and thus can never see any happiness in front of us. In order to yield a powerful relationship with someone else you must find it within. Again the Ego found a way to distract her form her Universal Truth, that in the moment she truly is happy, so why should se move away from that and become anything other than what the whole of humanity is currently searching for? What a powerful conversation, because it does applies to both of us. Often I lose sight of the happiness I currently exist in, so I say to us all live in the moment and believe in your happiness for a moment. That moment will last for an eternity.

Be well God…
Namaste
The Griot

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